Who do I want to be? How does that manifest in the world? .... training helped me figure out that those were the key questions in my life AND training helped me work on them. Seems there are many of us in this boat :-)
Oh yes, IMHO, its a very big boat.
Training and questioning help us get beyond the external-contextually-learned-ego-idenity to what we all know to be true and what is the right thing to do.
Perhaps we want to be who we already really are.
When the external-contextually-learned-ego-identity is incongruent with what we alerady know is true and right we have stress, anxiety, depression, addiction, confusion, conflict, and violence.
We all know who we are and the right thing to do. Lets have the courage to do it and the discipline to keep doing it no matter what.