I have never been accused of such. It's either all erotic or nothing at all.
Assuming you actually want an answer to this ages old, done to death a billion times question given above I'd ask you to use the Forum Search function of this site using the words "striking" "effectiveness", "street", "self defence", "reality" etc. and read some of the many threads that have addressed this question in the past.
If there is still a question after reading those, please post it here.
Just my 2 cents. There is a lot of Aikido that does not train the way you describe above and therefore have no issue youo are referring to.