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Personally, I think that there is oftentimes too much emphasis on placing the "blame" on uke to keep the connection. I've had my fingers wrenched a few too many times while I've been uke when my partner moves in such a way that would, in a "natural" situation, break the grip. When such a situation arises these days, I'll let the grip break but will usually try to keep connection through tegatana or some other part of my body.

Tangentially, just as I don't want to have a "death grip" when I'm nage, I sure don't want to have such as uke.

Just my thoughts.

-- Jun