George S. Ledyard wrote:
.... The giref just takes time. Most grief counselors (and you might wnat to find one) will tell you that it takes about two years before you really start to heal from a deep loss .....
The grief counselor I went to after my mom passed away told me it takes an average of five years to adjust
to a loss. You don't get over it, you don't forget about it, you don't put it behind you, you just get used to it. You may tell yourself the person you lossed "is in the ground; I have to get on with my life," but that's just a coping mechanism as much as believing he/she is still around is (although I have a close friend who adamantly believes my mom hears every word I say when I visit her grave).
It won't be easy, it won't be fun, and nothing prepares you for it whether you see it coming or not. But like George said, it will just take time.