David Skaggs wrote:
...Where in the execution of kotegaeshi is love expressed?
Aikido is not just the execution of its techniques. If you go up to a stranger and just perform kote-gaeshi it is not an expression of love. However, if someone attacks you, and instead of breaking their wrist or pummeling their face, you perform a non-lethal and non-permanently damaging technique which still allows them to complete their attack - you are expressing at least a caring atitude for your attacker (whilst protecting your own interests).
Idealistic, I'd agree. I haven't quite reached the capability of Ueshiba, so personally my real-life kote-gaeshi may be sub-standard in its ability to express love