In practice why do you use that control, so you don't hurt uke? Isn't learning a technique that can seriously injure or kill someone but practicing it in a way not to, the basic, beginning way to express the love O'Sensei talked about?
Umm, I think so. I was just being facetious, I shouldn't use terms like that outside of expressing humor. I meant something more along the lines of how you ended your post. The humane approach to neutralization, though if you can't choose every technical option, than you might not be able to make humane behaviour an option anyhow, which is why I need to work on my kote gaeshi.