Re: Kotegaeshi as an expression of love
When you tenkan you can can slap uke´s rear with the other hand - a cheeky atemi.
Is this a serious question? Control not destruction would be my answer. I once put kote gaeshi on a drunk grieving friend who had got violent - no more harm done, just a little sore wrist and head the next day - there is the love as the black eyed peas said.