Re: How aiki are we?
To me aiki doessn't mean a pushover, any more than femine means weak.
Often as you imply Anne Marie, it's used in the aikido world to mean "I dont like what you're doing.", or "lets be nice." Screw that I agree.
To me aiki isn't a moral matter so it's not about should - it's just an effective option.
Like all words the meaning is loose and fluid but I think we have enough of a consensus as to what it means so that we can have a conversation involving the word, though probably not enough of one to set anything in stone.
BIg aiki-love hugs to all my aiki-nicey friends,