So much for reigi.
I have been studying for over three years at a wonderful dojo. It is as much a second home with family as a dojo. Very much family/church oriented. It is a Aikido school. The owner/Master is very high in ranking and very much respected.
Might be time to think more about why you like this place and if those reasons are really good for your training and your self or is it just comfortable and convenient. If your Master is highly ranked then they can't really give the George Costanza "was that wrong?" over his recent lookin' for love in the wrong places. Dojo is no place for empty rituals and hollow men.
Sounds like Frank has some good opportunities.