Re: To sutemi, or not to sutemi
When visiting a foreign dojo I playfully held on to a senior partner as I was falling over backwards, caught her off balance and got a beautiful forward roll over my body. She in turn held on, used the momentum of her roll to turn me over on the mat and ended up applying a kneeling pin. It still stands out in my mind as the most beautiful kaeshi waza I have ever been involved in, and we were both laughing our heads off at the end.
My own dojo is, I think, a bit too safety-conscious to be comfortable with the sutemi waza, except among people much more senior than me. Alas. So much to learn, so little time....