Fred Little wrote:
One of the classic neo-Confucian tales of filial piety -- a girl so virtuous and devoted to her impoverished parents sold herself into prostitution to pay for their burial expenses.
Closer to home, looking to the Founder of Aikido, or his teachers, or his students as guides to appropriate social conduct in 21st Century America is not a terribly productive pursuit, though I suppose we build our justifications for what we've already decided is right out of what straw and mud we have at hand.
Pls, allow me to apologize for the gross mispelling of filial as Fidel previously. I don't mean to confuse anyone.
I heard, don't know if it is true, but during the Vet Nam war, many young woman sold themselves for sex to survive. I hear in young Filipinas and other young woman in improverished countries sell themselves for sex to survive. Even worse in some countries the families force their daughters into selling sex to eat. Horrible. With all the issues the US has am sure glad that isn't an option as it in those other countries.
Speaking of the elderly parents, I was told once there was a town in Japan as some time that pushed their parents off a cliff when the got to a certain age, as caring for them was a burned on the children. Boy, I am glad that doesn't happen anymore in Japan, if it did. I guess now in both countries they push the elderly to the side. There is a lack of parental care and respect. Which reminds me of a old movie that dealt with that problem amoung many in Japanese society, it was called something like "Des ka den" (?) by Kurasawa. There is also the Chinese made movie called "Pushing Hands" it deals with how off-spring deal with the elderly.
Of course I wasn't going to such an externme that say so many people splitting hairs. But, consider this. You are in a society that doesn't have medicare, retirement, and all the other things in most modern societies that function for all of us when we get old. Basically, you as a parent are dependent on your childern for you survival and quality of life until you die. What a terrible situation to be in when your family doesn't take care of you. You end up in the street at say 70 years old and you are too old and weak to contribute to society, yet, not on your death bed, you face the harsh realities of trying to survive. All the well knowing no one will help you, no one cares, and you will die from exposure to the elements, starvation or worse. Or you instill in your kids to care for you until you die. You insure, by raising your kids, that they are grateful, and caring and will return in kind your best insterest- if where a good and caring parent. That way you will not die in the street like an abandoned animal in misery. Who wants to die that way?
Well, of course when I mentioned filial piety it was in context of today and modern society. Respect for parents is more accurate if people really require such precise accuracy. For those of us who have raised kids we know the importance of respect a child must have for parents- here we are pointing to good adn caring parents of today- as it is carried on to others in society, such as teachers, and others. To be more detailed, here is where Aikido comes in. Aikido, I would think being a Japanese martial art and Osensei having his students respect him, includes respect for the Sensei. As a Sensei is a teacher. How far you want to go in terms of respect is a personal decision. My reference was that if the daughter trained in Aikido and Aikido has that element to ( what ever degree) of filial piety, then do her practice or training would not take her father's concern lightly. I would expect a snot nose teenager in rebellion mode ( often not know what their are rebelling for) to shrug off any parental advisement. Clearly, this woman ( the daughter ) is beyond that stage and has a mature relationship with her parents. But I could be wrong, she could be a teenager, but I dont' think so. Therefore, even in Western society filial piety does exist regardless if we see it our not. How sad would society be if we mocked filial piety.