A short added comment for the above post:
Of course I've seen a helluva lot of nice ppl in TMA too
It just seems to me that very often what is called "budo" will only reinforce some "d*cks"/"d*ck side of nice ppl" and what is alive and sporty they don't even touch or when they do they leave quickly OR change.
Also view "Aggressive aikidoka" from "anynonymous" section. And take time to think about how your experiences are.