Thank you for starting this thread. I believe I'm getting somewhere in begining to understand what's been said. Out of curriosity, I went to www.dictionary.com
and found the following:
shame ( P ) Pronunciation Key (shm)
A painful emotion caused by a strong sense of guilt, embarrassment, unworthiness, or disgrace.
There is also the contextual idea mentioned later about feeling surpassed in one way or another.
All of which can be motivators for change. I'm struggling just now to decide if Political Correctness etc. is what makes me shy away from this kind of terminology, or if there is something else.
I do know that in my own background, my mother especially used/uses shame extensively to condition me to her will. So I have my own personal reasons for avoiding it like the plague!
I do not think of what Kondo Sensei did in the same way at all...nor what my own teacher here in the states (also japanese) does either.
Ron (enough psychoanalysis from me)