hey aikidoka and martal artis out there. have you ever had a partner who perferably a tory ( thrower) who messases up on a throw or strike or any aspect of a movement then blames it on you the uke?? have you ever had it where to thrower does the lock a little harder or does the throw a little harder because they messed up and blamed it on you?? this happened to me last night when we were doing kotegashi and my the tory i was working with lost balance and got angery and did the lock much harder than average and hurt my arm a little ( ie it still hurts) and I thought hey is this normal??