Sorry for any "non-point" discussion I may have added to. I enjoy your point of view and appreciate the expertise you bring to Aikiweb! I hope my comments weren't too far off-topic.
Nice cup of tea analogy, I like it. The tea is understanding and a little bit of sugar could be little bits of historical or other data. Too much and you've just got a load of syrup.
I wait for the day when more people realize true budo is love and then can relate Kokyu correctly.
The one thing that differentiates Aikido from the 'traditional' is that it is love based whilst the rest are fear based.