Re: Kotegaeshi as an expression of love
 

Well, if the "line" is right, you can take em down pretty much instantly, without them ever completing their attack, and without breaking their wrist. I'm not sure about non-lethal though... once they're down, they're pretty much screwed, coz shoulder crank and elbow dislocation is next... depending on how much lovin' I got the nite before. ;)

Re: Kotegaeshi as an expression of love
 

Kote-Gaeshi

If you think about it the use of Kote-Gaeshi was mainly derived from the disarmament of an attacker who was intent on taking your life. Usually involving a Katana or Tanto and I'm sure an assortment of weapons including empty hand but I'm sure not so often. You could say, I chose not to break his arm or his wrist or cut him in half but stopped him and his intention and hopefully gave him the opportunity to change his ways.

O-Sensei

I think what he meant was the original intent of Budo is to cultivate and promote Compassion and brotherly love and harmonious spirit that is why martial arts where created. To save lives not take them, it's not enough to stop someone from hurting you but to respond with Evil is not the way. Evil begets Evil.

Re: Kotegaeshi as an expression of love
 

Thank You Eric. Where did you get that quote from?

Re: Kotegaeshi as an expression of love
 

I was voicing my opinion. You will find if you ask yourself, the answers will come, you just have to ask the yourself the right questions. I'm sure you already know the answer you just have to search inside youself a little. How does Kote-Gaishi make you feel, David? How do you feel when you practice Aikido?