Customs in the different countries
When I go in our dojo early after bowing to the photo of O'Sensei before we begin our class I greet all the collegues, some of them with two kisses in both cheecks. When they pass a test we also congratulate them with two kisses. When we go to a seminar we greet the collegues we know with kisses and when we meet new ones do the same. I kissed Ch. Tissier when I saw him in Malaga after going to 2 of his seminars before. We everytime kiss Frank Noel Sensei when we see him again and when we say good bye. I think it is a good custom in Spain and in most of latin countries in Argentina too, but there we use only one kiss.I asked a friend of Gran Canaria who lives in Kobe, Japan about japanese customs, he told me it would be very strange if I would do so in Japan, although they would understand because I'm not japanese. I think it is good to express the feelings.
I wonder how it is in your countries? |
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Do you think that cultures that doesn´t kiss people when they greet dont express the same feelings?
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Hi,
in Belgium there is also the custom to kiss people on one cheek when greeting. But one of our teachers tells us NOT to do that on the tatami, that would be impolite. The other kisses on the tatami... For me it doesn't matter. I can as well live with a kiss, an embrace, a handshake or a bow. Whatever is locally accepted. That's for aikidokas or colleagues...with my kids, obviously, I'd feel very sad if there were no kisses or embraces! Best regards, Eva |
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Hi Eva,
I like your countrymen a lot, they always give 3 kisses:) About the northern countries, people change when the live in Spain, they almost inmediately take our customs. I have a swedish collegue, who is just like a canarian:) |
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I'm thinking of Brezhnev meeting Tissier...:D
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By the way I found an interesting article about unexpressed feelings http://www.positive-way.com/newpage3.htm |
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I was raised and still live in the Berkshires of New England. We are not big kissers. I shake hands when I meet someone or want to congratulate them.
I notice that people from the city (new York or Boston) and Long Island seem to be more about kissing. Interesting. Mary |
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I will keep a sponge and towell ready just in case:) Henry Ellis http://aikido-books.blogspot.com/ |
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I am already packing :) x Henry Ellis http://aikido-books.blogspot.com/ |
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Demetrio for you the offer I did to Henry is no valid. If you came to our dojo you would receive from all of us many iriminages, or any other throw technik you like:D |
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Most of my older E Coast friends, like me, are kissers; here in Calif a simple hug is much more common. In the dojo, we bow. |
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A hug is also nice Janet, it is warm.. We give a hug to encourage somebody who needs it
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It depends a bit. Close relatives kiss hello and goodbye. Friends and coworkers may be kissed when congratulating. We kiss three times on the cheek. And men don't kiss men.
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Yes I know Dave, I work with many dutch men and women together, all the reps taking care of our tourists..
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I don't kiss anyone as a greeting and if I don't know you, you aren't getting a hug either. Call me cold or whatever, but that is just too personal for me. I will shake hands though. If I get to know you a bit, then a hug or kiss may be warranted upon a greeting, but other then that... no touchie please.
I have been in the awkward situation of being hugged and kissed by a stranger and though I didn't take offense to it, I didn't exactly welcome the gesture. I can usually tell if it is made with sincerity, so it is hard for me to really be offended by it. To each their own I guess. As for people in NYC being kissers, all of my friends in NY aren't big kissers. I imagine it depends on your circle though. If your family or area you live in tends to be oriented towards a certain ethnicity, then I can easily see this happening. In my family/friend circle gestures like that are reserved for good friends and family. I have no problem hugging a dojo-mate if they passed an exam (if I have known them for any length at all). |
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It is ok Ashley it is just what you get used since childhood, what you learn at home, at school. I grow up in Argentina and are now living almost 30 years in Spain, here it is strange if you don't greet somebody with a kiss, for you it is the other way.
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Carina
When I read your posts, I smile sometimes at your exuberance for Aikido and life, with respect, you have almost a childlike enthusiasm for all things.. There are few on here that I bother to reply to, or would care to meet.... If ever I get the chance to get some sun on these old bones in Gran Canaria I will visit your dojo. Henry Ellis http://aikido-books.blogspot.com/ |
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Thank a lot Henry, you'll be very welcome:) Yes I like aikido very much and enjoy it a lot with our nice group. Next saturday the 19th we'll have a free open door aikido training in the evening, the 3 teacher of our group will do a part, it sure will be very interesting..
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Keep that door open. I am going to Albuquerque New Mexico USA soon, to work on my next book, and possibly my last. I can assure you that I would love to visit Gran Canaria again and collect all those kisses from your female students as promised.:) Take care Henry Ellis http://aikido-books.blogspot.com/ |
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