dirty uniform
I have a question recently a young lady joined the dojo and I have noticed a lot of the students shy away from training with her but now I know why to much makeup and lipstick how can you tell this young lady to tone it down a bit without starting drama thanks
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I'd let some of the women in the dojo handle it -- this is an issue best handled in the women's dressing room, where someone can casually say, "Whoa, look at my gi! Who's wearing the makeup? Oh, it's you? See, this is why we don't wear makeup on the mat" etc.
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Just tell her.
We give each new student a list of do's and dont's including things like length of fingernails, make-up etc. Since we've done that (some years now) we haven't had a problem |
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I would think it would be a bit more comfortable for this female to hear coming from another female, so I agree with Mary's suggestion. Maybe one of the girls there can show up in makeup, but then wash it off there and explain why she did it to the new girl. Either that or create a list of rules that you can give her.
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Is it just me or what????
I really don't think it's that big deal to say, Hey your lipstick stained my gi, would you mind taking it off before training next time? I mean... if you are mature enough to show up and pay dues, what's the big frikkin' deal???? |
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As long as it's approached with tact and not called out in front of the class or anything I cannot see why it would be a problem. (so at least it's not just you Janet ;) if you'll accept my company! :) ) |
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It might make one consider publishing such rules/guidelines for future reference but a polite discussion with a student shouldn't be a problem in my opinion. I've had several discussions about appropriateness of clothing, removal of jewlery etc on numerous occasions with new starters and never had one take umbrage; maybe they were all outraged but too "British" to make a fuss though :p |
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Must remember to put my make up on next time I'm on the mat,
Make sure my handbaggo wa is tidy at my side. Where's me lipstick dukky? Do I look alright? :D Ooooooh sailor you look lovely!!! |
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Just make sure your wig is nailed on securely and you false eyelashes are glued on . You look great - like Marilyn Monroe after a train wreck. Joe. |
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As I stand with hand on hip, and the other one making flamboyant suggestions.... Tiny |
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I'm from California, and the Left Coast to boot, but I still have a question: when did women become such delicate flowers that a polite and tactful request regarding make-up/lipstick/perfume become politically incorrect? To my neanderthal mind, it still seems reasonable for the aggrieved party to discretely speak up about a soiled uniform, regardless of gender.
And I think the gym comparison is faulty as well. Men and women go to a gym for different reasons than they train in Aikido. In the gym you generally find one of two classes of people; those who are out of shape and trying to improve, and those who are in good shape and proud to show off their tone and muscle development. In the dojo most folks are there to learn an art and aren't quite so interested in demonstrating their attractiveness. |
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When you start doing things in a gym that involve the possibility of smearing cosmetics on other people, then the same issue applies. I stand by my post; if some people insist on treating adult life as if they were in middle school, doesn't mean the rest of us have play into it.
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Reminds me of the time some guy hadn't washed his feet and tracked dirt all over the mat. I loudly called him out for it, he hastily apologized and bowed out to take care of it, and it never happened again. If someone's head will explode because the owner of a makeup-smeared keiko gi complains, how will they ever deal with the other stress that comes with studying a martial art?
With that said, one doesn't necessarily want to blast beginners off the mat for their first etiquette infraction. So you might want to mention it more discreetly. Just be matter-of-fact about it: you don't care what she does off the mat, but remember that aikido is a full-contact practice. Katherine |
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Many moons ago, we had a particular feller who was a bit shy of soap and water...... I doesn't take much to imagine what it was like every time he raised his arms and parted his legs in what ever he happened to be doing. After a couple of sessions it became apparent who the offender was..... What we all did at the next session was all turned up with clothes line washing pegs at the ready....
When it was the turn of anybody to partner up as his uke we all donned the pegs to our hooters. It had quite a surprising difference to his attitude and he never ever turned up stinking again..... He turned out to be quite a good aikidoka and we were sorry to lose him when he emigrated to Aussie.... |
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Sorry Mary, I don't see the strawman either. Your suggestion that it best be handled by the other women of the dojo gave rise to my comment. I simply don't see any reason why any person in the dojo couldn't successfully speak to this woman in a polite and tactful way. Your advice sounded to me as if you considered it inappropriate that a male address the issue, thus suggesting to me that political correctness was rearing it's head. If that wasn't your intent, then I apologize. If it was, I will ask one of the women to offer you my apologies for offending you.
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Isn't sensei in charge of the class.
We had a similar situation at our dojo. We complained to sensei and he told the woman. dps |
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There were suggestions it should be a woman making the suggestion, that a woman might want to wear makeup in order to wash it off in front of her... all as if a simple, direct communication would, in the words of the OP, "create drama."
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I had one student that had a ` pen & ink ` problem, I took him to one side and informed him that Boots the Chemist were doing two deodorants for the price of three...worked...
Henry Ellis http://aikido-books.blogspot.com/ |
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I've had no trouble telling women in our dojo that it's best for them to remove earrings and the like. And anyone who hasn't practiced some basic hygiene gets feedback about it immediately. No drama to it.
Two of our yudansha use the Japanese cotton indigo hakama, which stains other people's gis a lot. We complain, but there really seems to be nothing to do; indigo is like that, even if they try to fix it with vinegar and whatnot. We just wait out the month or so it takes for the staining to stop. |
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