Hi Jane! My wife said there are a few possible clinical names for this poor behavior. It really depends on the motives of the individule. BUT! She said more often than not it is a borderline personality disorder that is the cause (this is extreme behaviour we are refering to) and are often accompanied by other disorders or issues that the individual has. Not very spacific to be sure, but I guess psycology and psyciatry is not an exact science. Kelly

My wife has recently told me that she has been reading your journal entries. She likes your writing style and train of thought. Maybe she will log on and tell you herself. If not I'll try and remember to ask her. Kelly

Hi Kelly I think I understand what you're saying, and I don't believe that what I said is an absolute, just a ponderance more than anything. Other reasons I have seen are control, cruelty (sadly, and only in rare instances), but there are still more. My nerdy brain wants to know what those reasons are. I'm curious too what your wife would call (clinically) this motiv. Thanks for the feedback.

Quote "So if it -=is=- conflict resolution; could there also be an underlying want/need to create or perpetuate conflict in order to have the psychological satisfaction of ‘winning' or resolving the conflict? Could we be unconsciously seeking the neurotransmitter reward by finding ways to manifest then resolve conflict?" Unquote I don't think everyone is like that, but there is certainly no shortage of people who are like that, and the martial arts community seems to have the lions share of them. I think. I beleive the reasons you have made for this behaviour very plausible. I'm sure there is a pshycological clinical name for it, but I'm not sure what it is. That's my wifes forte'. Kelly