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Unregistered
07-08-2003, 06:25 PM
I discvoered that my sensei lurks at this website quite often though doesn't post
(at least not under name)

do you lurk here to check on your students?

no need to id yourself; who is watching?

why don't you chime in?

Janet Rosen
07-08-2003, 06:35 PM
I'm not an instructor, but find it interesting that you ascribe motives so easily, assuming an instructor lurks in order to "check on" his or her own students, as if most folks don't have enough to do. Certainly there are plenty of other reasons for perusing the site!

PeterR
07-08-2003, 07:01 PM
I've had good reason to be paranoid.

I get involved in a point of discussion on some technical term and within a few weeks its covered in class.

Spooky.

If you right something that your teachers would be embarrased to see - don't right it. Or post in the anonymous forum.

Daniel Mills
07-09-2003, 04:42 AM
I've recently learned that the same is true for my Senseis, and have noted one of our Shodans has signed up in the past few days but has yet to post.

After a quick panic, I realised I'd posted nothing to panic about other than the fact I'd kept my Gi paranoia between myself and a few closer friends in the dojo :D, and look forward to being able to cover topics from here, in sessions, and also vice versa.

:)

JimAde
07-09-2003, 08:20 AM
After a quick panic, I realised I'd posted nothing to panic about other than the fact I'd kept my Gi paranoia between myself and a few closer friends in the dojo :D
Gi paranoia? That's a phrase I haven't heard before. Can you explain, please :)

Daniel Mills
07-09-2003, 08:24 AM
Hi Jim,

I only started training three months ago, and weigh pushing 400lbs, so finding a Gi that I was comfortable in/with proved an effort.

The day I got my Gi and wore it awhile was a less than fun day as my insecurities got the better of me, and I had a quick panic and so forth. A little embarassing in retrospect :)

Best,

-Daniel.

mj
07-09-2003, 08:25 AM
I also know that my sensei reads these forums but (afaik) never posts.

And may I add what a wonderful sensei he is :)

Veers
07-09-2003, 09:39 AM
My sensei checks this site rarely... And if anyone remembers Jorge Garcia (from my big stink thread about Premu and the OKF and stuff), his son attends our dojo.

But big deal...I have nothing to hide...well, I guess my aikido journal might have a few gripes...but oh well.

JimAde
07-09-2003, 09:59 AM
Thanks for the explanation, Daniel. I thought I was missing a whole new Martial Arts/Psychology crossover :D

I pictured somebody in the changing room screaming at the wall "Who's been messing with my gi? I know it was you, Elvis!!!"

:D :D :D

Kevin Wilbanks
07-09-2003, 10:32 AM
I'm of the opinion that one should generally express oneself as honestly as possible, and let the chips fall where they may. If you think it or believe it, why not put it out there and own up to the consequences of it? I guess the exception would be expressions that are pointlessly insulting and of no public interest (i.e., "I think you're ugly", etc...) In general, I've found that it's not a formula for maximum popularity, but I always sleep well and never waste time/energy on regrets or stewing in repression.

JMCavazos
07-09-2003, 12:05 PM
Lurking is such an ugly word!

I am an instructor, & I enjoy reading what others write. I don't post very often. I often mention to my students about this forum. I haven't seen any postings from them, but if they did -- it's OK. Sometimes an instructor may find that he/she is not explaining something as good as could be explained.

I don't think that this forum is good place to post a question about technique. It is a great place to meet & speak with folks that have the same interests that you do. It can also help others that are looking for a place, like Jonathan who was looking for a place to train a few months ago.

My instructor "lurks" here so often, and I think that there is insight to me by what I post and the manner in which it is posted.

Anyway, don't be paranoid about talking with friends.

Veers
07-09-2003, 12:22 PM
It can also help others that are looking for a place, like Jonathan who was looking for a place to train a few months ago.*gasp* I guess that answers the topic question for me. :)

Unregistered
07-09-2003, 04:11 PM
ah, this is in an invitation for those instructors who do lurk and don't post to post here anonymously .. just to confirm that yeah, someone's watching.

come on, you know who you are..

akiy
07-09-2003, 04:42 PM
ah, this is in an invitation for those instructors who do lurk and don't post to post here anonymously .. just to confirm that yeah, someone's watching.

come on, you know who you are..
Invitation? Sounds more like a challenge or some sort of weird guilt trip.

Do you really consider posting onto a public site on the Internet and having people, even your instructors, read what you wrote to be surreptitiously "watching" or "checking" -- as though they're peeping through binoculars from within some bushes? I don't see anything wrong with people, even (or, heck, especially) instructors who read public thoughts expressed by someone they know.

I, for one, take it to be a given that there'll be people I personally know who read what I write here. Heck, I take it as a given that there'll be a bunch of people whom I personally know who is reading this who aren't active posters here. And so it goes; that's the nature of posting in a public forum within a relatively small community as that of aikido.

In any case, I'll just say, for the purpose of clarifying the purpose of these Forums, that everyone regardless of whether they know anyone else here in these Forums is welcome to come here for the sole purpose of reading; participating, although very much encouraged and welcome, is not necessary. Read away!

In closing, a question to the Anonymous User who started this thread. I take it that you usually post with your account. What kind of issues do you personally have with your instructor reading your posts here? And why? Are there many unresolved issues between you and your instructor?

-- Jun

Unregistered
07-10-2003, 02:03 PM
Ok, not to be taken to seriously, my hope was to see if any of the silent instructors would perform a "cyber wink" , because some people don't post because they don't want to discourage newer folks.

of course I always assume that what I post will be read. I don't always think before I hit "Submit" so I admit to having foot in mouth disease.

issues with my instructors? none so far, and I hope it stays that way. i belive it's understood that I'm not a spokesperson for them or for the dojo.

this thread is pure impudence by the way..

no offense meant, but i hope it reminds people that what is posted here is in fact read.

Unregistered
07-10-2003, 02:08 PM
oh and one other thing; I know my instructors read posts here, by keeping my identity secret I was making this more of a global case.

ok no more misuse of the "touchy" forum

Hanna B
07-11-2003, 02:59 AM
Some people I train with have found me on the web boards, and told me so. Some have not said anything.

Although it clearly is the rules of the game that anybody can read, I do find those people more honest who tell me to my face that they read my rants. If I found out that my teacher had been reading my posts for years and never said a word, I would certainly wonder why.

justinm
07-21-2003, 10:39 AM
You mean - someone i know might read this?

I had better logoff and come back in anonymously!!

Yikes!

Justin. I mean 'A Person'