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Nick P.
09-07-2007, 08:26 AM
In the case of a teacher having passed on some time ago (5+yrs), how would one mark the occasion? In the case of a fellow student (2yrs), would it be any different?

Some ways that come to mind are...
-Photos of them up on those days (at or not at the kamiza)
-Photos of them up year round (at or not at the kamiza)
-Black arm band on those days
-Other

Let's try and keep the responses narrowed to what you have seen/done, and not so much with what you think should or should not happen.

Thank you.

SmilingNage
09-07-2007, 09:06 AM
A silent class, sometimes a candlelight class, other times a silent candle light class followed by a seated meditation.

BC
09-07-2007, 12:55 PM
We keep Sensei's picture on the kamiza (at all times).

On the anniversary of his passing, we have a brief standing meditation facing the sunset before class begins.

Neil Mick
09-07-2007, 01:24 PM
In the case of a teacher having passed on some time ago (5+yrs), how would one mark the occasion? In the case of a fellow student (2yrs), would it be any different?

Some ways that come to mind are...
-Photos of them up on those days (at or not at the kamiza)
-Photos of them up year round (at or not at the kamiza)
-Black arm band on those days
-Other

Thank you.

It all depends upon Sensei, and (in the case of a student passing) that student's relationship to the dojo.

At Santa Cruz, we have a corner dedicated to pictures of bygone Sensei's who were important to our Sensei's training (Terry Dobson, Hikitsuchi, etc).

On one section of the dojo wall sits a sculpture done by a yudansha who passed away, several years' ago. Next to her sculpture is a month of her attendance record. A large gathering of friends and dojo-mates attended a slideshow of her life, and work, shortly after her passing.

Recently, a mudansha passed on, and there was a candle lit for her on the Saturday class, with a short circle to talk about her life, held between classes.

Photos are generally pinned on the surrounding bulletin boards, and not near the kamizaa.

crbateman
09-07-2007, 10:24 PM
I don't think there is any set protocol. You should do what you feel is right, and this should be interpreted by your present leadership.