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Creation Date: 08-13-2004 08:36 PM
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In General A Pros and Cons Compromise Entry Tools Rate This Entry
  #40 New 04-26-2004 04:31 PM
Now that I am on an evening shift my family is finding it very difficult with me being gone to train at the dojo on the little time that is available when my wife or I are not at work, or my kids are not at school. My son is having problems at school that require my full attention now. The two days I'm off work I need to make myself available to him when he gets home from school. Now that my wife is working full time I almost never see her. The few times I can see her I was attending classes for the most part. So needless to say this new arrangement is grating on everyone's nerves. Because of this I have informed Sensei that I will no longer be able to train.

I was afraid that this might happen when I moved from night shift to evenings, but after 8 years on nights I couldn't do it any more. The pros of moving to a new shift definitely out weighs the cons of stopping my training as I new that if I were to continue on nights the way I was it would surely have killed me. This compromise was one that I needed to make at this time. I have been and will continue to investigate what my options are with respect to continuing my training in Aikido. Until I find an equitable solution I will try to train on my own the best I can and hope that I don't lose everything that I have learned.
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#5 04-30-2004 03:52 PM
Kelly Allen Says:
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jdgaden wrote:
Whoops --- that got submitted before I was done posting. What are the chances that you and your Sensei might also be able to re-align training times to fit both your schedules? Or has that already been discussed and found to be impossible...?
Since I am off when every one else is working and working when everyone else is off I doubt there would be any time change that would work. I have some options but not sure if they will work out either.
#4 04-28-2004 07:47 AM
jducusin Says:
Whoops --- that got submitted before I was done posting. What are the chances that you and your Sensei might also be able to re-align training times to fit both your schedules? Or has that already been discussed and found to be impossible...?
#3 04-28-2004 07:43 AM
jducusin Says:
Well, I'm glad to hear that it's not based on any misunderstanding --- I guess after seeing so many "fallings-out" happen in the Aikido community (which is a shame) I'm always wanting to make peace, especially in ensuring that the folks involved dialogue as fully as they can before making decisions.
#2 04-27-2004 03:35 PM
Kelly Allen Says:
Quote "I also do hold the hope that perhaps you and your Sensei may be able to further dialogue and come to a fair compromise based upon both of your expectations." Unquote. Not to worry whatever misunderstanding you saw take place at the gasshuku has long since been rectified and forgotten. It was just a bad coincidence that it happened at the same time. I'm sure lots of assumptions were formed because of it.
#1 04-27-2004 12:22 AM
jducusin Says:
Kelly, I'm sorry to hear that finding an equitable balance between the priorities of work, family, and practice is causing so much stress...I realize now how much I really take for granted that at this point in my life, I have one less of these factors (family) to have to consider but also recognize that as one day in the future it may become a factor, I have a great deal of respect for the struggle you currently face. I also do hold the hope that perhaps you and your Sensei may be able to further dialogue and come to a fair compromise based upon both of your expectations. Best of luck, Jamie
 




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