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I once received a business card belonging to a martial arts instructor which read (among other things) ‘conflict resolution' and I thought it was humorous in an ironic sort of way. This has gotten me thinking though; do we as individuals, I mean those of us who choose a path training in the martial arts, choose it because of a possible need to resolve conflict? Whether it is real physical conflict, psychological conflict, or emotional conflict, or some sort of irresolvable spiritual conflict; is there a need to resolve? I think it is in me. I think I dislike conflict. I think it is normal for all people to dislike conflict, but there is so much superfluous conflict, I mean there is so much bunk that is needlessly created in life.
So what I wonder is that there are reasons that firefighters and police officers and lawyers and counselors become who they are. There is a psychological root to why we choose our path. Is it that we are in great need for control, do we want to express ourselves through cruel acts, or are we attempting to resolve conflict? Many of us didn't choose baseball, dancing, drumming, swimming, diving, or sailing. We chose a martial art.
So if it -=is=- conflict resolution; could there also be an underlying want/need to create or perpetuate conflict in order to have the psychological satisfaction of ‘winning' or resolving the conflict? Could we be unconsciously seeking the neurotransmitter reward by finding ways to manifest then resolve conflict?